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Eyes on Healing: How Concentrated Focus Ignites the Path to Recovery

I have been having recurring thoughts on the subject of focus. It keeps coming up, multiple times a day. At first, I didn’t pay much attention, however, it kept coming up. I started paying attention. As a result, I have been doing some research on the subject of focus and the role it plays in the healing process. Each year I choose one word, one aspect of my own healing process to focus on. Because of the recurring thoughts and my research, this year my word is FOCUS.

I left my first marriage after years of physical, mental, and emotional abuse. Those first few years were very difficult. I spent a lot of time focusing on the injustices, the abuse against me, my fears, and the pain of my emotions. Every time I focused on the abuse and the battles, I suffered. I spent a lot of years suffering. I spent a lot of years confused and lost. I was one of the walking wounded.

It wasn’t until I began to focus on myself, discovering my strengths, desires and dreams that I stopped suffering. I began to live, all because my focus had changed.

Tony Robbins and other thought leaders often quote, “Where focus goes, energy flows.” We can all find the bad things in life; however, we can also find the good. We get to choose what we focus on. Do you want to focus on all that happened to you or do you want to focus on learning to thrive in spite of the trauma you’ve experienced?  We all have the ability to live a happy life. Focusing on what is good about you is a valuable place to start.

Elliott Connie, author of “The Solution Focused Brief Therapy Diamond” says that when a client focuses on the problem, the trauma, or the reason they reached out to him, they continue to suffer. There is no value in continuing to suffer. There is value in focusing on your best outcome, not a goal, but the outcome. What difference will your outcome make to your life?

Trauma often disrupts a person’s mental and emotional well-being, leading to feelings of confusion, anxiety, and a scattered mind. Focus, in the context of trauma healing is the intentional and concentrated attention directed towards the process of recovery. Focus involves mindfulness, defining your ideal outcomes, and the active reduction of distractions to create a conducive environment for healing.

Focus involves recognizing and nurturing the connection between the mind and body. Focus is about acknowledging the physical and emotional aspects of trauma and directing attention to activities or practices that promote holistic healing.

Distractions often hinder the healing process. We can become experts on personal distraction. Focusing on trauma healing means actively working to reduce and manage external and internal distractions. Any distraction can derail progress. A new relationship can derail your healing in a very big way. Focus also means maintaining a sense of presence and awareness even when facing challenges or triggers. It’s the ability to navigate difficult moments with a clear and intentional mindset.

Setting clear intentions is a key component of focus in trauma healing. This involves visualizing the desired outcome of the healing process and actively working towards that vision.

There is a definite mind-body connection connected to trauma. Focused attention on the mind-body connection is crucial to the healing process. Mindfulness practices are linked to reduced stress levels. When you concentrate on the present moment, it helps alleviate the physical and psychological impacts of stress, promoting a sense of calm. Focused attention fosters a strong mind-body connection. This connection empowers you to actively take part in your healing process, recognizing the interplay between emotional experiences and physical sensations.

Focused attention allows you to see and understand your emotions without judgment. Self-awareness is a key part of emotional regulation. Self-awareness enables you to respond to your feelings in a more controlled and constructive manner. You gain control over your emotions once again. What felt out of control is now manageable. Awareness is the key.

Focused attention encourages self-compassion by allowing you to approach your thoughts and emotions with kindness and understanding. This shift in perspective contributes to a more positive and nurturing relationship with yourself. The regular practice of focused attention techniques contributes to the development of resilience. Resilience equips you with tools to navigate challenges, bounce back from adversity, and cultivate a positive outlook on your healing journey. With focused attention your emotional well-being improves.  Emotional well-being can positively affect your social interactions. You may find yourself better equipped to connect with others, express your needs, and build supportive relationships.

Trauma often disrupts sleep patterns. Focused attention, especially in relaxation techniques like deep breathing or meditation, contribute to improved sleep quality. Healing techniques such as Pure Bioenergy Healing Therapy, that heal the body, mind and emotions are excellent therapies for better sleep patterns. Better sleep supports overall physical and emotional well-being. You can connect with Judy Johnston to book your Pure Bioenergy Healing Therapy session.

Have you tried mindful breathing? Let us take one minute to engage in a mindful breathing exercise. When you do a mindful breathing exercise throughout your day you are focusing your attention on one thing. This calms your nervous system, any anxiety or angst, and teaches you how to focus on one thing and only one thing. I am providing a one-minute video with beautiful music to get you started.

WATCH AND LISTEN

Another mindfulness exercise you can do is a body scan meditation. In a body scan meditation, you pay attention to each part of your body, starting from your toes and moving up to your head. Notice any sensations without judgment. This practice enhances body awareness and can help release tension. This is a 5-minute body scan meditation for you to try.

LAY DOWN AND LISTEN

If you like to walk, try mindful walking. Pay attention to the sensation of each step, the movement of your body, and the surrounding environment. Walking mindfully can help anchor you in the present moment. One of my loves is to mindfully walk through the bush, taking in the smells, the sights, the sounds, the feeling of the earth beneath my feet and the fresh air. Bookmark this meditation or download it to your phone, put on a pair of headphones and your comfortable walking shoes and head outside for a walk.

WALK AND LISTEN

Incorporate mindful movement practices into your routine. Activities like yoga, Tai Chi, or Qigong combine physical movement with breath awareness, promoting relaxation and flexibility.

YOGA FOR ANXIETY AND STRESS

TAI CHI

QIGONG

Cultivate a daily gratitude practice. Take a few moments each day to reflect on things you are grateful for. This practice shifts your focus towards the positive aspects of life, fostering a sense of appreciation. Journaling gratitude with a mindful approach involves seeing your day, your thoughts, and your emotions without judgment. Write down what you are grateful for. Take it a step further and write about your daily experiences, any aspirations you may have, and insights gained during the healing journey.

Be mindful and intentional about your use of technology. Take breaks from screens. Practice digital detoxification. Be mindful of the content you consume. Resist the urge to scroll mindlessly. At night, keep your phone in another room. If you use your phone as your alarm, set your phone on the other side of the room, out of reach or in the bathroom. Set the volume louder. You will hear it. You also have to get up to turn it off. Mindful technology use supports a healthier relationship with the digital world.

Remember that consistency is key when incorporating mindfulness practices into daily life. Start with small steps, gradually increasing the duration and variety of practices as they become integrated into your routine. The goal is to make mindfulness a natural part of your day, supplying ongoing support for your healing journey. These are just a few methods of mindfulness practices. Pick one to start. If you don’t like it move on to something else. This is your mindful practice. Make it as unique and beautiful as you are.

Focused healing requires concentrating on specific outcomes related to your recovery. This could involve setting intentions, naming areas that need attention, and working towards achieving milestones in your healing journey. This could include visualizing the life you want to have. Write down your dreams and desires. Do not judge what you write down. Do not try to figure out how you will achieve your dreams and desires. This practice is to develop your sense of self and open your heart up to possibilities. Keep your dreams and desires to yourself – at least for now. You do not want others to poop on your ideas. This is your healing journey. No one has any input into this journey but you. Judy and I are here to give you ideas and options. You decide how you want your healing journey to evolve.

In the tapestry of trauma healing, focus emerges as the guiding thread, weaving through the intricate patterns of recovery. Like a steady compass, intentional attention directs you towards the core of their healing journey, illuminating the path with clarity and purpose.

In the realm of mindfulness, the power of focused awareness becomes a transformative force, untangling the knots of emotional turmoil and grounding the mind in the present moment. Through practices that nurture this focus—be it mindful breathing, body scan meditations, or the intentional cultivation of gratitude—you not only control your healing but you also forge a profound connection between the realms of the physical and the emotional. With each deliberate breath, every step taken mindfully, and the conscious choice to navigate distractions, the importance of focus manifests as a catalyst for resilience and self-discovery. It is in this focused embrace of the present that the healing journey transcends mere recovery, evolving into a profound awakening where you confidently rediscover your essence and reclaim ownership of your narrative.

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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Emotional intelligence, often abbreviated as EQ (Emotional Quotient), refers to the ability to recognize, understand, manage, and effectively use your own emotions, as well as the emotions of others. It plays a crucial role in personal and interpersonal success, and it’s particularly relevant in the context of personal development. Emotional intelligence is vital for building strong relationships, communicating effectively, managing emotions, and making sound decisions. In the context of personal development, developing emotional intelligence can lead to greater self-awareness and self-regulation, helping you to make positive changes in your life.

Emotional intelligence (EQ) can have a profound impact on your relationships. It plays a pivotal role in how you interact, communicate, and build meaningful connections. Emotional intelligence is a powerful tool. Emotional intelligence is a skill that can be developed and improved upon over time through self-awareness, practice, and a genuine commitment to understanding and connecting with others on a deeper emotional level.

All the subjects we have been covering this past year are all part of emotional intelligence. Increasing your emotional intelligence is an ongoing process. It requires patience and self-compassion. Raising your EQ does not need to be an arduous task. Each time you choose to develop an aspect of your personality you are also increasing your EQ. As we actively heal from the traumas of our life our emotional intelligence will ultimately increase. You can choose to increase your EQ or you can choose to do nothing and stay exactly where you are.

I would like to share some practical steps to help you enhance your emotional intelligence:

Take time for introspection. Reflect on your emotions, their triggers, and how they influence your thoughts and actions. Write your reflections in a journal to track your emotions and experiences. Writing about your feelings can deepen your understanding of them. This practice also gets the “stinking thinking” out of your head circling around and around.

Ask for honest feedback from trusted friends, family, or colleagues about how they perceive your emotional expressions and responses. Seek guidance from someone with a high level of emotional intelligence. Their mentorship can be invaluable in your journey to increase your EQ. These three practices increase your self-awareness. Becoming aware of your emotions is vital to your recovery.

Develop effective stress management strategies, such as exercise, deep breathing, or time management, to keep your emotions in check during challenging situations. Mindfulness techniques, such as meditation, can help you become more aware of your emotional responses and learn to control them. Being prepared with strategies in advance assists you in weathering any storm that comes your way.

Pay close attention when others speak. Try to understand their feelings, concerns, and perspectives without immediately offering solutions or judgment. It is always better to listen to understand than to listen to respond.  I dislike it when I share my feelings with someone, and they respond without waiting for me to finish so they can share about their own life. That is an instant shut down for me. I know they do not care.

Work on your verbal and non-verbal communication skills. Be clear, concise, and empathetic in your interactions. Check your own body language. Body language often speaks louder than words. Are your arms crossed? Are you eyes wandering? What would it take to look into the eyes of the person talking? Are you giving them signs that you are listening?

When interacting with others, try to imagine what it’s like to be in their situation. This can help you connect on a deeper level. Strive to build and maintain positive relationships. Invest time in nurturing connections with friends, family, and colleagues.

Learn conflict resolution techniques to handle disagreements constructively. Techniques such as assertive communication, conflict analysis, taking breaks from discussions, and compromise, are all effective in deescalating conflict.

Identify healthy coping strategies for dealing with adversity, setbacks, or difficult emotions. This might include seeking support from others or engaging in self-care activities. Instead of dwelling on failures or setbacks, view them as opportunities for growth and learning.

Set meaningful, achievable goals that align with your values and passions. This can provide motivation and a sense of purpose. Check out our blog posts on values and passions. Recognize and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small. This positive reinforcement can boost your motivation.

There are many books and resources available on emotional intelligence. Consider reading about the topic to gain new insights and strategies. Attend workshops or training programs on emotional intelligence if they are available in your area and online. These can provide practical exercises and guidance.

Remember that emotional intelligence is a skill that can be developed and improved over time through self-awareness, practice, and a genuine commitment to understanding and connecting with others on a deeper emotional level.

Neglecting your emotional intelligence can have far-reaching consequences in various aspects of your life, including your relationships, personal development, and professional aspirations. Recognizing the importance of emotional intelligence and actively working to improve upon it can lead to more positive outcomes in your trauma healing process and all areas of your life.