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Why Asking for Help Feels So Hard After Abuse – When survival teaches you to carry everything alone.

There is a difference between being capable and believing you have to carry everything alone. At first glance, those two things can look remarkably similar. Both women get things done. Both women manage responsibilities and keep moving forward even when life is difficult.

But beneath the surface, they are driven by very different beliefs. One woman chooses to carry what is hers. The other quietly believes she has no choice. That difference changes everything.

Many women in abusive relationships become incredibly capable. Long before she leaves, she has learned to read moods, anticipate conflict, manage finances with limited resources, protect her children, keep the household running, and make difficult decisions under constant overwhelming pressure.

She became adaptable because she had to. She learned to anticipate problems before they happened, adapted to changing situations, and carried responsibilities that often feel far too heavy for one person.

Those strengths don’t disappear when the relationship ends. If anything, they become even more important as she begins rebuilding her life. She uses that same determination to find a place to live, create financial stability, care for her family, and begin imagining a different future.

These are remarkable qualities. They speak to courage, perseverance, and an incredible capacity to endure challenging circumstances. The difficulty begins when the very strengths that helped her survive convince her that she must always survive alone.

When we understand what she’s lived through, her reluctance to ask for help makes perfect sense. She has spoken up and not been believed. She has been told she was imagining things, overreacting, or making too much of the situation. She has reached out, only to discover that even well-meaning people didn’t understand what life was really like.

After enough experiences like these, asking for help no longer feels like a place where someone will help her make sense of what she’s experiencing. Instead, it feels like one more place where she may not be seen, heard, or believed. It feels risky so she stops asking. Not because she wants to do everything alone. Because experience has taught her it may be safer that way.

Many women begin questioning not only what happened to them, but also whether they can trust their own thoughts and perceptions. I explored this more deeply in Borrowed Shame, Borrowed Identity, where we look at how other people’s words can quietly become our own beliefs.

For a woman who has lived through abuse accepting encouragement feels alien. Trusting someone else’s guidance can feel risky. Over time, carrying the full load alone no longer feels like a choice. It simply becomes normal.

I know that feeling because I have lived it. When I left my first marriage, I was frightened, overwhelmed, and responsible for two young children. Like so many women, I wasn’t just trying to recover from a difficult relationship. I was trying to build an entirely new life while wondering whether I was making the right decisions.

I reached out for help. Some people genuinely wanted to support me, but they didn’t know how. Others couldn’t understand what I had experienced. There were quite a few responses that left me feeling even more alone than before I had asked. Without realizing it, I reached a conclusion that many abused women eventually arrive at. “I’ll just figure this out myself.”

At the time, that decision felt wise. It felt safer than risking another disappointing conversation. Looking back, I understand why I made that choice. I also understand what it cost me.

The longer I believed I had to carry everything by myself, the smaller my world became. Every decision rested on my shoulders. Every problem was mine to solve. Every question had to be answered using only my own experiences and perspective. I wasn’t lacking strength. I was lacking support. There is an important difference.

Independence Was Never Meant to Mean Isolation

One of the greatest misconceptions about independence is that it means never needing anyone else. Many of us admire people who appear completely self-sufficient. They seem strong, confident, and capable of handling whatever life puts in front of them. It’s easy to believe that asking for help somehow weakens that image.

But healthy independence has never meant doing everything alone. Healthy independence means taking responsibility for your life while remaining open to the wisdom, encouragement, and support of others. It means making your own decisions without believing you must discover every answer by yourself.

There is a profound difference between choosing your own direction and believing you must walk every mile alone. Isolation quietly tells us something very different. It whispers, “No one will understand.” “You shouldn’t need help.” “It’s easier if you keep this to yourself.”

Those thoughts often feel convincing because they have been reinforced over many years.  They begin to sound less like fear and more like fact. But they are not facts. They are conclusions drawn from painful experiences. And while those conclusions may once have protected you, they may no longer be serving the life you are trying to create.

What if independence and support were never meant to compete with one another? What if they were designed to work together?

Think about the people you admire most. They probably ask questions. They read books. They seek advice. They hire coaches. They learn from mentors. They consult professionals. None of those things make them less independent. They make them wiser. They understand something many of us forget. Seeking support doesn’t hand your life to someone else. It gives you more information with which to make your own decisions.

Support Expands What Is Possible

One of the greatest fears women have after an abusive relationship is that accepting help means giving up control. If someone offers advice, will they expect me to follow it? If I lean on someone today, will I become dependent on them tomorrow? If I ask for help, does that mean I am no longer capable of handling my own life?

Those questions are understandable, especially for someone whose choices have been questioned, criticized, or controlled in the past. But healthy support doesn’t replace your judgment. It strengthens it.

Think about the last time you were overwhelmed by a problem. Chances are you went over the same thoughts repeatedly, looking for a solution. The harder you tried to think your way through it, the smaller your world became. Every possibility seemed to lead to another obstacle. That isn’t because you weren’t intelligent. It’s because overwhelm narrows our perspective.

When we’re carrying too much, our minds naturally focus on immediate problems. We become so close to the situation that we can no longer see beyond it. We aren’t seeing the whole picture. We’re seeing only the piece directly in front of us.

That’s where another person can make such a profound difference. Not because they have all the answers and not because they know what’s best for you. The other person is standing in a different place. They see possibilities that are hidden from your view. They aren’t necessarily wiser. They simply aren’t carrying the same emotional weight.

Sometimes the greatest gift another person gives us isn’t advice. It’s perspective.

I often think about the woman who changed the direction of my life without ever trying to. When I left my first marriage, a friend offered my children and me a place to stay while she and her family were away for the holidays. She didn’t solve my problems. She didn’t tell me what decisions to make. She didn’t rescue me.

She gave me something far more valuable. She gave me time. She gave me space. She gave me enough breathing room to think clearly again. At the time, I thought she was offering me a place to stay. Looking back, I realize she was offering me something much bigger. She was reminding me that I didn’t have to carry everything by myself. That simple act didn’t change my circumstances overnight. It changed what I believed was possible.

New beginnings rarely happen because someone else has all the answers. More often, they begin when we discover we don’t have to search for those answers alone.

None of us has every answer. We were never meant to. We each see life through the lens of our own experiences, and that perspective, while valuable, is always limited.

That’s one of the gifts healthy support offers. It doesn’t replace our thinking. It expands it. Healthy support broadens our perspective. It introduces new ideas, different experiences, and possibilities we may never have considered on our own.

When someone listens without judgment, asks thoughtful questions, or shares a perspective we hadn’t considered, our world becomes a little bigger. We begin to see possibilities that were always there but were hidden beneath the weight of carrying everything ourselves. That doesn’t diminish our independence. It strengthens it.

We are still the ones who choose the path. We simply have more of the landscape in view.

Confidence rarely appears before we take the next step. More often, it grows because we were willing to take it. I explore that idea further in Stop Waiting to Feel Confident.

You Get to Choose

There is an old saying that it takes a village to raise a child. I believe it also takes a village to help a woman rebuild her life. Life was never meant to be lived in isolation. We learn from one another. We encourage one another. We remind one another of strengths that are easy to overlook when life is overwhelming.

The important thing to remember is this. Accepting support does not mean giving up responsibility for your life. You are still the one making the decisions. You are still the one choosing your direction. You are still the one taking each step forward.

Support simply means you no longer have to figure everything out by yourself. Only you can decide whether you’re ready to let someone walk beside you. That choice has always belonged to you. But if you’ve been carrying the full load alone for longer than you can remember, perhaps it’s worth asking yourself one simple question.

What might become possible if I allowed someone to help me see more of the landscape?

Rebuilding your life doesn’t happen overnight. There is often a quiet season where you’re learning to trust yourself before you fully reconnect with the world. If that’s where you find yourself today, you may enjoy reading The Sacredness of the Season Between Surviving and Sharing Your Life Again.

A Gentle Reminder

You do not have to earn support. You do not have to prove you are strong enough to deserve compassion. You do not have to carry every burden by yourself. Sometimes the most courageous step forward is allowing someone to walk beside you. If this article has helped you recognize places in your life where you’ve been carrying the full load alone, I invite you to book a Freedom To Be You Session.

Together, we’ll explore where you are today, where you’d like to be, and what your next step might look like. My role isn’t to tell you what to do. It’s to help you see more of the landscape so you can confidently choose the path that feels right for you.

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Reflection

Is there one area of your life where you’ve been carrying the full load simply because you’ve forgotten that support is an option?

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The Sacredness of the Season Between Surviving and Sharing Your Life Again

There is a season after leaving an abusive relationship that very few people talk about. Most conversations focus on leaving. Finding safety. Healing from the past. Learning to trust again.

Those conversations are important.

But there is another season that quietly follows, and in many ways it is just as important. It is the season between surviving and sharing your life again. It is a season many women try to rush through because they mistake it for loneliness. I don’t believe it is meant to be rushed.

I believe it is sacred.

Not because it is always easy. But because it gives you something that may have been missing for many years. The opportunity to discover yourself.

The Quiet That Feels Uncomfortable

Maybe you’ve had a Saturday morning like this. You wake up with nowhere you have to be.

You pour yourself a cup of coffee and stand quietly in your kitchen. The dishes are done.

The groceries are in the fridge. There are errands you could run and laundry that could be folded. Yet you find yourself standing there, coffee in hand, asking a question you never expected. “What am I going to do with myself today?”

Not because there is nothing to do. But because none of it feels meaningful. You could crawl back into bed. You could clean the house. You could scroll through social media. You could run errands you don’t really need to run. You could stay busy all day. Yet somehow, none of those things feel like the way you want to spend your hard-earned freedom.

That thought can be confusing. After everything it took to leave an abusive relationship, shouldn’t freedom feel wonderful? Instead, the quiet feels unfamiliar.

Before long another thought quietly slips into your mind. “Maybe I’m lonely.” Sometimes that is exactly what you’re feeling. But sometimes it isn’t.

Is It Loneliness, or Is It Something Else?

For years your days may have been shaped by someone else’s needs.

Meals to prepare.

Problems to solve.

Moods to manage.

Appointments to remember.

Conflicts to avoid.

Whether you wanted those responsibilities or not, they gave your life a familiar rhythm.                                                                                                           

Then one day that rhythm disappeared. The space that was once occupied by someone else suddenly became yours. That can feel strange. Not because there is anything wrong and not because you’ve failed. Simply because it is different, unfamiliar.

Our natural instinct is to fill that space as quickly as possible. We stay busy. We distract ourselves. We convince ourselves that if we can just keep moving, we won’t have to feel the discomfort. But what if that discomfort isn’t asking to be avoided? What if it is inviting you to ask a different question?

What do I want?

That question can be surprisingly difficult to answer because for so long you’ve been asking a different question. What does everyone else need from me? When your life has revolved around another person’s expectations, wants, and reactions, your own desires often become very quiet because they stopped receiving your attention. Learning to ask yourself what you want isn’t selfish. It is one of the first steps in rebuilding your life after abuse.  Perhaps this season isn’t asking you to fill every empty space. Perhaps it is inviting you to discover what belongs there.

Loneliness Is a Poor Matchmaker

When that empty space feels uncomfortable, it is completely understandable to want the feeling to go away.

Sometimes we fill our calendars.

Sometimes we fill our homes with noise.

Sometimes we begin looking for another relationship.

There is nothing wrong with wanting companionship. Human beings are created for connection. But there is a difference between wanting to share your life with someone and wanting someone else to remove the discomfort of being alone. That is why I often say,

Loneliness is a poor matchmaker. Not because relationships are dangerous. Not because love isn’t beautiful. But because loneliness can persuade us to mistake relief for readiness.

The season after leaving an abusive relationship has something precious to offer. Don’t let anyone, or anything, rush you past it.

The Gift of This Season

This season has something to offer you if you’re willing to give it time. Time without the distraction of another relationship.

It’s about giving yourself the opportunity to discover what brings you joy.

What you value.

What gives your life meaning.

What makes you laugh.

What you no longer want to compromise.

In other words, it’s giving yourself the opportunity to create a life that reflects who you truly are. This season gives you something many women have never had. The opportunity to discover yourself.

Approach this season with curiosity. Try something simply because you’ve never done it before. You might discover a new hobby. A new friendship. A new confidence. Or simply a new part of yourself.

Rediscover interests you may have set aside years ago.

Say yes to an invitation.

Take yourself somewhere you’ve always wanted to go.

Spend time with people who leave you feeling encouraged.

Notice what brings you joy.

Notice what drains your energy.

Most importantly, discover what feels like home in your heart. Every new experience teaches you something. Not just about the world around you. But about yourself.

You begin to notice things you may never have paid attention to before.

“I really enjoyed that.”

“I’d like to do that again.”

“That doesn’t feel right for me anymore.”

“I never realized how important that was to me.”

Little by little, you begin to recognize your own voice. It is not the voice of your past. Nor is it the voice of someone else’s expectations. It is your voice.

For many women, that realization is life changing. After years of adapting, accommodating, and trying to keep the peace, you begin to discover that your own thoughts, dreams, values, and opinions matter. Not because someone else finally gives you permission. Because they always mattered.

You are now giving yourself permission to listen. And you begin to trust yourself. That trust quietly grows into confidence.

Confidence in the choices you make.

Confidence in the boundaries you set.

Confidence in the opportunities you embrace.

Confidence in the life you’re creating.

As your confidence grows, your values become clearer. You recognize what brings you peace.

You become more certain about what you will and will not accept. This confidence doesn’t suddenly appear one morning. It grows one experience at a time. One decision at a time. One ordinary Saturday at a time.

The Most Important Relationship

As you begin creating a life that reflects who you are, something else begins to change. The relationship you have with yourself.

You stop apologizing for the things that matter to you. You become more comfortable saying yes when something feels right. You become more comfortable saying no when it doesn’t.

You no longer need someone else to tell you who you are because you’re discovering that for yourself. This relationship with yourself becomes the foundation for every other relationship in your life.

Friends.

Family.

Coworkers.

Neighbours.

And perhaps one day, another intimate relationship.

When we enter a relationship before we’ve had the opportunity to know ourselves, it is easy to begin organizing our lives around another person again. Not because we intend to. But because it feels familiar. Without even realizing it, we slowly stop asking, “What do I want?” And begin asking, “What do they need?” Or, “How do I keep this relationship working?”

Those are the very questions this season has been gently inviting you to step away from. That is why giving yourself time matters. Not because relationships are dangerous and not because you should be afraid to love again. But because you matter.

The more deeply you know yourself, the more likely you are to recognize someone who honours the woman you are instead of expecting you to become someone else. Healthy relationships don’t ask you to disappear. They make room for you to be fully yourself.

The Sacredness of This Season

Our world often tells us to move on quickly, stay busy, find someone new, fill the empty space.

I would like to offer you a different perspective. What if this season isn’t empty at all? What if it is one of the richest seasons of your life? What if this quiet space is where you discover strengths you never knew you had? Where you learn to trust yourself. Where you laugh without wondering whether someone else approves. Where you decorate your home the way you like it. Travel where you want to go. Eat what you enjoy. Spend time with people who encourage you. Create traditions that belong to you. Dream dreams that are yours.

Gradually, you stop building a life around surviving. You begin building a life around living. That is the gift of this season. Not waiting.

Living.

Not preparing for someone else. Becoming more deeply acquainted with yourself.

An Invitation

If you find yourself in this season today, don’t rush through it.

Protect it.

Be curious.

Pay attention.

Allow yourself to become fascinated by the woman you’re getting to know. There is no timetable. No finish line. No prize for reaching the next relationship first. There is simply today.

This Saturday. This cup of coffee. This opportunity to ask, “What do I want?” You may be surprised by the answer.

One day, if someone joins the life you’ve so intentionally created, my hope is that they honour what you have so lovingly built. Because the healthiest relationship you build after leaving an abusive relationship is not a romantic one. It is the relationship you build with yourself.

Everything else grows from there.

If this season feels familiar to you and you’re looking for someone to walk beside you as you create a life that reflects who you are, I’d love to invite you to book a Freedom To Be You Session.

Together, we’ll explore where you are today, where you’d like to be, and the next step that’s right for you. Book your free call today.

You don’t have to figure it all out alone. Sometimes one conversation is all it takes to begin seeing your life differently.

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Judgements

If you’re like me, you’ve experienced some form of trauma in your life. And if you’re anything like me, you might also be prone to being judged by others because of it. I’m here to tell you that it’s okay to be who you are, and that no one deserves to be judged for their trauma. Keep reading to find out why.

We all make judgements.

It is inevitable that we make judgements about other people – whether we realize it or not. These judgements can lead to pain and difficulty with our relationships. But while it may seem hard, the best thing we can do is try to be aware of your own judgements and be mindful of how those judgements may affect those around us. The important thing to remember is that everyone is just doing their best, even if it doesn’t look the same as yours.

Why do we judge others? 

Judging others is something we’ve all done, but why do we do it? Is it because deep down, we’re scared of them and/or their differences? Or maybe it’s because their behavior doesn’t fit our idea of what’s “normal”. Since we are unable to understand it, we make assumptions about them. Whatever the reason may be, it’s clear that judging people isn’t a healthy habit to have. Instead of looking for the negatives in someone else’s life, try to see the good that others bring. This practice can make us more tolerant and open-minded people and give us a chance to become better versions of ourselves.

Can we break down the barriers that our judgements create between us and others?

Breaking down the barriers created by judgement can seem like a difficult challenge. In reality, it is one of the simple things to do. All it takes is a little vulnerability and an open mind – something that a lot of people are scared of. Because we have been judged should we be actively judging others? Is there a possibility that because we know the hurt of being judged we can stop the cycle of “you hurt me, now I get to hurt you”? If the person who hurt you is not in the line of fire, could we quit taking it out on the next person who comes into your field of vision?

If we worked to view the world around us through a different lens, we would be choosing to challenge ourselves and our perspective. Instead of seeing the worst in people, what if we actively chose to seek out the best? While it may not always be the easiest path to take, the personal growth we can gain from taking this approach is invaluable. By recognizing and appreciating the good within someone, we open ourselves up to a more meaningful connection with that person. It’s never too late to start noticing all of the wonderful things that are waiting for us as soon as we make a conscious effort to look for them!

A few months ago, I ran into someone at the mall that I had gone to school with a way back when. I hadn’t ever really talked to them much before and honestly, the first time we’d ever interacted wasn’t memorable in a good way. So, when I saw them, I expected it to be awkward and maybe even hostile. But instead, they treated me like an old friend and joked around with me while we caught up on our lives. In that moment, I couldn’t help but realize how wrong my first judgement of them had been; my mind was completely changed at the fact they were just so warm and kind. It left me thinking twice about judging people on appearances or quick conversations afterward; you never fully know what someone is like until you’ve gotten to know them better!

We all have certain prejudices and biases – it’s unavoidable, but that doesn’t mean we should shy away from challenging them. We have the ability to think critically. We have the ability to ask ourselves why we’re feeling a certain way. We have the ability to work through our judgemental assumptions. 

If we want to make progress in creating more unity between ourselves and the people around us, stop being so quick to judge and start having conversations with people who think differently than we do. During open conversations we may even learn why they judged us in the first place. When we come together and openly discuss our opinions while understanding that we may disagree at times, it helps us become more tolerant of each other’s beliefs which creates a safe environment where relationships can grow. 

Join me in making a conscious effort to see the best in people; when we look past surface-level differences, we may find qualities we deeply connect with. We won’t always be proven right in our judgements of those around us, but isn’t it better to give someone a chance than jump to conclusions?

Is there one thing you can do today or be aware of today to ease your burden of judgmental thinking? Be kind to yourself and others; recognize where our minds take us when it comes to assessing someone else’s character. 

We’re all human beings with feelings, flaws, strengths, and worries. Champion yourself in being open minded towards others. Consciously let go of judgement, so that meaningful connections can be established with those that share the same world. Let us take actions together towards breaking down these limits. You never know what kind of meaningful connection you just might find!

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New Year 2023 Horoscope

HAPPY NEW YEAR!! Our dear friend Norah Nasturas has graciously provided us with the New Year 2023 Horoscope and a Personal Horoscope for January 2023. I admit it. I do not understand a lot of the fine details of astrology. I do however, enjoy reading what astrologers have to say. If you would like to contact Norah, her contact information is at the end of this post.

Judy and I pray that 2023 is full of precious moments and a lot of AHA moments. 🙂

Ascendent Virgo = Ruler Mercury

Middle Heaven Gemini = Mercury

Mercury 28 degrees Sag in relation with Neptune 28 degrees Aquarius; Mercury Ruler of the year, movement, communications, talking, but at least for the first half no actions, the news about everything are in relation with illusions and manipulation, don’t listen too much to media: The TV or others information.

Mercury in Sagittarius, confusion but positive, more in relation with the Universal values. At the Same time, Lot of changes are coming in relation with information and new discovering,

Mercury Moon in the same element, the intuition is working together with the knowledge what give fast advancement in new things to do better life for people, working in the same direction, in the action.

Lot of people are having problems to adapt to the changes, thinking doctors/medicine can give solutions. And lot of problem with drugs. Drugs are not a solution. The solution is to help people to adapt to the changes, the changes happening in this last 2-3 years are irreversible, we are going to a different society, with different values, behaviors, educations, and spirituality.

Day Saturday = ruler Saturn, the first part of the year will be a new organization, and slow improvement, Saturn is moving to Aquarius, in direction Neptune, for 2 years ½ we will keep in the illusions, Middle 2025 we will know about what really happens in this period post covid. We will see the truth and understand.

Hour Sun = ruler Sun, positive year. Government will be improving too, take more action in relation with children, art and creativity (small businesses)

Venus = economy in Capricorn, slow improvement, will take 2 years to be ok.

Jupiter in Pisces, Jupiter is the protection we all have. In April 2023 Jupiter will move to Aries.

Lots of changes this spring in relation with Jupiter signification as Legal, Foreign, immigration, universities, learning, languages etc etc

Pluto in Capricorn = house prices are going to become normal.

Finally, Venus in Capricorn the first days of 2023 will be another change in the interest rate, in relation with the past actions of the country, the economy, the other countries, with Pluto will be another organization of the money for the country, The people, the business, in relation with priorities.

The moon in Aries is going to take us to the future, more importance for the women, the collective, the people, rapid changes. Lot of action taken by women, looking to past, change the meaning to be a woman, going out of the 2 nd category. As in women will be MORE PROMINENT.

Women fighting for family and children, with the Node north of the moon Rahu (karma), will change the future.

Mars in Taurus, all the activity for the country and people is ruled by Venus, taurus sign, the aggressivity of people will be coming down to most diplomatic behavior, the aggressivity/action of Mars will be transformed in diplomacy, Venus in Capricorn is in relation with the development of how the food is cultivated. Wall cultivation like Vertical Greenhouses.

Venus money = restriction, economy, creativity in 5 th house. Gambling, Complete change in the idea of money, from the past, the Money becomes an abstract idea, Property prices will be real, at the moment is completely an illusion, part of the Gambling situation.

People will start to Focus in new ways. The changes will be in projects, they will be reality in relation to Mars and will happen after the summer 2023.

The Node North of the Moon in 8 th house, People, women are asking for change, social benefits need to be updated, following the Changes in our society,

The 6th house, everything will be changed in relation with work, servants, pets, and very confused; in Aquarius with Neptune inside.

The 6th house in Aquarius, Health, Advance in the more natural ways to take care of the body at the same time that traditional Medicine, Aquarius is the sign of Freedom, Democracy, People. The governments need to find a solution in relation with the health problems and the health system, not only in Canada, will be probable that soon or later, we will have 2 systems in relation with health, the public and the private or will be more clear we have this 2 systems already??

January 2023 Horoscopes

Aries – Lot of changes especially in relation to the discovery about yourself. Who. Who I am and what I really want. A deep analysis of my past, a new cycle is starting with new ideas, values, optimism, thinking to a new start, trying to improving your life, health, organization,doing correction everything that is negative.

Taurus- the reality is here, and you need to face. You know is lot of work to do it and pain (Mars in taurus) but I am sure is going to be better, the shake-up (bad events) is passed, but you are not clear yet, Neptune in the 10 th House, fighti with illusions, the good thing is you have lot of people around, unknown new people and friends. Stay positive, little by little life is getting better.

Gemini- Good time to ask for a Credit or talk with the bank or ask for a raise. Routine becomes easier, we find solutions in relation with responsibilities or commitments, we have more organization, not too many changes and you realize that you are independent and strong and you find very good solutions to this difficult time you had the last 2-3 years. You are doing well.

Cancer- Surprises and changes at the work front, big jumps! Don’t forget the spiritual part in your life, enjoy the Result you are having after the hard work you did. Accept the gift coming from outside of your life, don’t be scared to be happy and don’t be hard on yourself.

Leo – don’t take risks, you don’t have the support you think. Your past relationships (co-workers, family, etc) and past actions are asking for solution, don’t fight, and Use diplomacy. Be very careful with investments or in relation with money, you will be losing lot of money if you don’t change your values, your behavior, try to be more in the reality than illusions, especially after spring 2023.

Virgo – You have the possibility this year to start a new life, with different way of thinking, try to make the necessary changes in your routine before the spring. You have the possibility to improve your career, using the knowledge you have about the Natural and Universal Values. The old teachers give you the knowledge you need to pass to new generations.

Libra – you are ok at this time, but your life is going to change in Spring, Lot of planets are going

to move and the same will be for different areas of your life. Take care of your health, you can do it now, don’t wait. Don’t worry about your career, you are now in the high possible place. Be careful after the spring the problems will start, especially Health.

Scorpio- Mars in Taurus, finally you will be in relation with your career in the high place you must be, Creativity, love, children Is ok but try to organize your future. Relationships are going to change, more work but different subjects with a change in the direction of your work, you attract people currently. Careful with your digestion.

Sagittarius – Good time for spirituality and travels, work and career is going to expand after the spring, more organization, friends coming from past (or past lives) future is open, put your engine to work, is a good year for you, little low in finances, be careful where you spend. You will have improvement in finances after the middle of the year.

Capricorn – Finally is finish these 3 years break in your life. Start to move again, start to live, put yourself in action is lot of opportunities there outside. Be smart, do it now; after spring will be much more difficult for you to find the NEW way. New friends are coming, old friends are going. Change your mind about you and the exterior, good for spirituality.

Aquarius – Become more interested in Nature, Natural healing, invest in yourself before March in new ways, find your happiness now, what you really would like to do. Don’t follow most people. Air is your element. The space is open waiting for you, all the possibilities are open for you Your health is improving lots. Don’t take drugs. Water is good for you, help to think. Go for swimming.

Pisces – Now your life is quiet, but Jupiter is leaving Pisces in March/April; time for a trip? Going to your roots, analyse your life and see what necessary change you need to do, try to come back to spirituality, you worry too much about money, but there are other things more Important in life, this year, you are going to find what is missing in your life. Control your health and your weight.

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