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The First Step to Change: Believing It’s Possible for You

She stood in front of the mirror, toothbrush still in hand, staring at the same woman who had gotten up every day, done the hard things, kept the peace, kept the schedule, kept herself small.

Maggie didn’t recognize herself anymore. Not really.

The lines around her eyes weren’t just age. They were tiredness. Worn edges. And something else she couldn’t name.

It wasn’t that her world had just suddenly fallen apart.

No, the unraveling had been slow; one broken promise at a time.

One more time she didn’t speak up.

One more birthday she planned for everyone else and no one remembered hers.

And now?

Now she stood at the edge. Not of a cliff exactly but of something she couldn’t see the bottom of.

Becoming herself. Finally.

But where would she even begin?

When the World Quietly Unravels

Maybe you see a bit of yourself in Maggie.

Maybe your “falling apart” wasn’t loud or dramatic. Maybe it was quiet, made of tiny betrayals; some from others, some from yourself, stacked up over years.

Maybe you’ve been functioning like a pro but feeling like a ghost.

If that’s you, I want you to hear this, gently but clearly:

It’s okay to not know where to start.

But it’s not okay to believe that you’re stuck forever.

Because you’re not.

No one talks about how heavy it is to even think about changing your life when you’re already exhausted from surviving it.

The Unseen Weight

You’ve probably said things to yourself like the following. And sadly, you’re not alone:

“I should be grateful…”
“It’s too late to change.”
“I don’t even know who I am anymore.”

These thoughts don’t make you weak. They make you human.

They are very common for women who’ve experienced trauma, especially the quiet, eroding kind that happens over time: emotional neglect, staying in the background, over-giving, never being seen.

So, if you’re overwhelmed and doubting your ability to change anything at all, it makes perfect sense.

After all, you’ve been doing your best just to survive.

That’s not a moral failure. That’s your nervous system doing its job.

But survival isn’t where your story ends.

A Whisper You Can Trust

There’s a sacred moment, a quiet one that shows up for every woman on the edge.

It doesn’t come with trumpets or fireworks.
It’s not dramatic.
It’s often just a whisper.

It sounds something like this:


“There has to be more than this.”

Not louder. Just clearer.

That whisper? In truth, that’s your deeper self—your knowing self.

That whisper? It’s your deeper self—the one who still believes in you. The woman who remembers what she loves is still inside. She’s just waiting for you to turn toward her again.

Not the tired one. Not the doubting one. But the knowing one. The woman who still exists under all the rubble. She’s still in there. She just needs you to come find her.

And I promise you; she’s worth the search.

The First Step Is Not What You Think

Let me lovingly bust a myth here:

The first step is not “having a plan.”

It’s not overhauling your whole life.
It’s not deciding overnight who you are or where you’re going.

The first step is simply choosing to believe that change is possible. Even if you don’t yet believe it for yourself.

Even if the belief is just a flicker.

Even if you’re still scared. Especially if you are.

What Courage Really Looks Like

When Judy and I talk about “courageous confidence,” we’re not talking about strutting into a new life with fireworks and lipstick and a five-point plan.

We’re talking about courage that looks like:

Getting out of bed and drinking water when you wanted to disappear.

Saying “no” to something you always said yes to, just to keep the peace.

Letting yourself want something again, even though you’ve been told you shouldn’t.

Courageous Confidence isn’t a personality trait.

It’s a muscle.
And we build it together.

This is exactly why we created the Courageous Confidence course—for women just like you. Not the ones who are already thriving and confident, but the ones on the edge—where you are right now. The ones who feel the whisper but don’t know what to do next.

You don’t have to do it alone. And you don’t have to figure everything out before you begin.

You’re Not the Only One

Let me tell you something we hear all the time in our women’s groups:

“I thought I was the only one who felt this way.”

But you’re not.

There are so many of us women who have given so much to everyone else for so long, we forgot what it meant to receive. To rest. To heal. To become again.

A Safe Place to Begin Again

That’s why we’re inviting you to join us for the Rooted Resilient Radiant Weekend Retreat September 12 to 14. It’s not a self-help seminar. It’s not a conference. It’s a gentle pause, a chance to step away from the noise, the “shoulds,” and the weight of pretending you’re okay.

It’s a space to be held, seen, and reminded of your wholeness.

And you don’t have to arrive already healed. You just have to arrive.

Saying Yes to Yourself Changes Everything

Here’s what happens when a woman — any woman — says,

“I’m willing to see what else is possible.”

She may not move mountains that day.

But she begins.

And that beginning? It changes everything.

In our Courageous Confidence to an Empowered Life 5 Day Journey, we walk with you through that beginning. We help you reconnect with the values that truly matter to you, shift the beliefs that are keeping you small, and choose what you want your life to look like now, not someday.

This isn’t fluff. It’s real work. But it’s heart-centered, woman-honoring, and completely do-able with support.

You don’t need to know what’s next. Instead, just stay curious about what’s possible.
What matters is that you feel something pulling you toward change.
And no, it’s not too late.

And if that’s you? You’re ready.

You Are Not Broken. You Are Becoming.

Please hear this:

You’re not too old.
Not too late.
Not too far gone.

You are becoming.

And yes, it’s scary. But it’s also beautiful. And Judy and I are hereto walk with you, to believe in you until your belief in yourself takes root.

Two Small Steps Toward Something Beautiful

Single sprouting seed

You don’t need to leap. Just step.

  1. Check out the Rooted Resilient Radiant Retreat happening this September. Even if it’s just to read the details and imagine yourself there. That spark? It matters.

  2. Book a Courageous Confidence Breakthrough Session. It’s a one-on-one chat with someone who’s been where you are. No pressure. No expectations. Just a loving conversation to explore what’s next for you.
    Book Here

If you’re not quite ready to reach out but want to keep exploring, that’s okay too. You might enjoy our reflection on the power of inner language—Watch What You Think—a reminder that your thoughts shape more than you know.

You’ve survived so much already.

You’ve survived so much already. Now, it’s time to build something new—not alone, but together.

Because you deserve a life that feels like yours again.
And it starts… exactly where you are.

If this post spoke to something deep in you, you’re not alone. We invite you to browse our Wounded Women Rising blog—each post is written with women like you in mind: tender-hearted, resilient, and on the edge of something new.

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Just One Thing

In this day of instant media, constant information, increased speed of life’s expectations, it is easy to see how one can experience a feeling of being overwhelmed.    The feeling of having too much to do, and no time to do it in.  The feeling that no matter what I do, it isn’t enough. Many women have so many responsibilities, it is a wonder they can relax at all.  Yet relaxation is essential to renewing our minds, and our bodies.  Not to mention our spirit which is where our energy resides.   Your intuition or inner knowing needs to have quiet or calm so you can hear it.   Today, let’s look at some ways that we can “Be Still…” and connect to our heart, so our minds and bodies can function better.

What are the symptoms/effects of over-thinking? 

Have you ever felt like your thoughts are running in circles, but you’re too drained to take a single step forward? One thought leads to the next To Do on the list, and at the same time you may feel guilt or irritation that you are not further towards your goal.  Let’s not make our goal our gaol. Let’s just pause, breathe for a minute.

Overwhelm and overthinking often creep in quietly, but their symptoms are unmistakable. For women healing from emotional trauma, it can feel like your inner world is on high alert—even when everything on the outside seems quiet.

You might notice it in these subtle but powerful ways:

Common Symptoms of Overwhelm & Overthinking

  • Procrastination: Not because you’re lazy, but because your mind is overloaded, and you don’t know where to begin. Procrastination is a double-edged sword. We know we need to do something, we think about it a lot. The thinking about it, creates an upset or irritation yet it doesn’t move us close to task. The deadline may be looming and our avoidance is in full bloom.  Being told “just get’er done” isn’t helpful. Be kind. If you are feeling this don’t criticize yourself. Acknowledge it.
  • Irritation & Mood Swings: Your patience wears thin, and small things feel massive. Some days I ask myself, Dang, Why do I feel so bitchy? 
  • Worry & Racing Thoughts: Your mind constantly replays scenarios or “what ifs”, even when you’re trying to rest.
  • Insomnia or Restless Sleep: You lie in bed tired but wired, unable to shut off the mental noise. Our friendly hormones can keep our mind caught in a loop.  Less sleep equals more irritability.
  • Apathy or Numbness: You feel stuck, unmotivated, or emotionally disconnected from your goals and dreams. Just feel like “MEH”.

These aren’t just inconveniences. They’re signals from your body and nervous system asking for attention, care, and recalibration.

So What Can You Do When You Feel Overwhelmed?

The healing journey doesn’t require perfection or doing everything at once. It simply begins with one small, grounded step.

Here are gentle but powerful remedies to help move you from frozen to focused:

1. Just Do One Thing

Start with one simple task. Make your bed. Send that email. Drink a glass of water. When your brain feels scattered, completing just one thing helps shift you from chaos to clarity. It reminds your nervous system: You’re capable. You’re moving forward.  Make “Just One Thing” your mantra.

2. Make a ‘Need-to-Do’ List

Write it out. Not just in your head. Getting your thoughts on paper stops the mental loop. You release the pressure to remember everything and can begin to prioritize what truly matters.

Writing it out also let’s us figure out what is in our control. Often we worry about other people’s reactions to us, spiking our stress levels when we let other’s expectations live in our minds.  Worry takes away our peace.  Choose to protect your peace.

3. Analyze & Delegate

Look at your list and ask:

  • What must I do because it aligns with my values or goals?
  • What can I delegate, delay, or even delete?

This isn’t about doing more, it’s about doing what’s meaningful and letting go of the rest.

4. Use Your Strengths to Build Confidence

What comes naturally to you? Organization, creativity, empathy, listening? Tap into your strengths first, they’ll energize you. Every time you act from your strengths, you build momentum, clarity, and self-trust.   We all have been given gifts. When we use our gifts, we feel good, confident and happy. Remember when you delegate something to someone, you let them use their gifts too.  You are doing a service to another person. That action brings you a boost of “feel good” dopamine.  Do good because it’s good for you.

5. Act:  Do the Thing.   The congratulate yourself for Doing the Thing!   When you complete a task, especially one you’ve been avoiding, your brain releases dopamine, often called the “feel-good” or “motivation” hormone. It’s a chemical reward that makes you feel a sense of pleasure, accomplishment, and momentum.

Even small actions, like crossing something off your to-do list or cleaning a drawer, give your brain a dopamine hit. This is why the “Just Do One Thing” strategy works so well, it kickstarts the reward system in your brain and shifts you out of freeze mode.

Why Dopamine Matters:

Dopamine isn’t just about pleasure. It’s part of your brain’s reward system, a system designed to reinforce positive behavior. When you take action and feel good afterward, your brain learns something very important:

“Taking action helps me feel better.”

Each time this happens, your brain builds a new neural pathway, what we call a positive feedback loop or even “success circuitry.”

It Looks Like This:

  • Cue: You feel overwhelmed
  • Action: You do one small thing
  • Reward: Dopamine makes you feel good
  • Reinforcement: Your brain says, “Let’s do that again.”

Over time, this rewires the default pattern of procrastination and freeze into a new one of confidence, momentum, and inner trust.

Where PureBioenergy Healing Comes In

When your nervous system is dysregulated from trauma or emotional exhaustion, even small tasks can feel impossible. That’s why PureBioenergy Healing Therapy is such a powerful ally.

By calming the mind, restoring energetic balance, and releasing stored emotional tension, it creates the inner stillness and spaciousness required for clarity and aligned action. You no longer feel hijacked by racing thoughts or paralyzed by fear, you feel centered, capable, and connected to your intuition.

How PureBioenergy Healing Therapy Helps

When you’re overwhelmed, your mind can become a torrential storm, tossing and tormenting you. PureBioenergy Healing Therapy offers a deeply calming space for your nervous system to reset.

Here’s what it does :

  • Calms the racing mind without requiring you to relive past trauma.
  • Creates deep relaxation in both body and mind, allowing restorative rest.
  • Enhances focus and clarity, helping you get out of “fog brain”.
  • Restores your energetic balance, so you feel lighter, grounded, and more present.
  • Connects you to your intuition, making decision-making clearer and more confident.
  • Decreases or stops Pain, so your body can rest, renew, and restore.
  • Improves Sleep: Sleep is essential for healing.

You Are Not Lazy. You Are Healing.

Overwhelm and overthinking are not flaws. They are protective responses from a nervous system that’s been through too much for too long.

The good news? You don’t have to stay in that stuck place.

With simple tools, supportive community, and powerful energy healing, you can find your way back to focus, flow, and peace.

Your Next Step:

If you’re feeling scattered or shut down right now, start small.

✔️ Just do one thing.
✔️ Make your list.
✔️ Ask for help.
✔️ Book a PureBioenergy Healing Therapy session.

Rose and I understand because we have lived it. I don’t just teach this, I live it.  Reach out if you have questions or just want an understanding listener.  We are here to serve. Do Just One thing today to bring you some peace, joy and happiness.

You deserve a life that feels clear, calm, and deeply connected to you.

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Your Body Speaks, Are you Listening?

The Body Speaks, are you listening to it?

There is a non-verbal language that is occurring continuously within us. 

Our nervous system, our many hormones, our intuition, interact as a symphony flowing, moving, shifting as one response creates another. Intermingling with each other, one raises the tempo, the next lowers the volume all so that the human being remains in harmony.

The conductor for this musical journey is the life source itself. 

Every cell in your body is capable of memory and consciousness. Dr. Bernie Seigel tells us,“ Your dreams, symbols, drawings and feelings tell us this and now so does science. Transplant patients can tell information about the individual whose donor organs are within them.  So please pay attention to the messages from your body and heal whatever may be hurting you. And be aware of the information you are giving your body.  Please don’t let your ability to think, overcome your ability to feel. “

Let’s look at some of the instruments in our orchestra.  Remembering the instruments themselves do not make the music. It is the Self, the person, the human being playing the instrument. It’s the frequency, the life source that creates the harmony.

As the majority of the Baby Boomers are coming into their mature years, the topic of hormones especially in para-menopausal and menopausal women are getting a lot of press.

Let’s take a moment to remember that women are working in careers now for longer than other time in history.   The external stresses on a person do affect the internal hormonal reactions.

Most of us know the major chords of Estrogen, Progesterone, Human Growth Hormone.  Today let’s talk about some of the minor chords, Cortisol, Leptin, Renin, adiponectin.

Let’s start with the endocrine system.   The adrenal glands are workhorses in the body.  Not only do the adrenals produce cortisol, and adrenaline, but they also make the hormones that turn into female hormones, estrogen and progesterone and male hormones like testosterone.   Women need testosterone as it plays a substantial role in libido. Libido isn’t just the desire to have sex; it is tied into your mental well-being. Your drive, your ambition is tied into your hormonal balance.

  The adrenal gland produces important chemicals like adrenaline.  Adrenaline gives a body the energy to act quickly.  Adrenaline draws on the fat storage for energy during stressful situations. It is usually burned off quickly once the danger has pasted. It quickens the pulse, stops digestion, shuts down the sex organs, because the body needs to respond to the danger immediately. Once the danger is over, the adrenaline decreases and systems go back to normal.

  The adrenal gland gets the signal to make the chemicals or hormone from the pituitary gland.   It tells the adrenal gland to produce adrenaline and cortisol as it has perceived danger. 

When the perceived danger, or a continuous stress does not decrease, the body releases high levels of cortisone.  Unrelenting stress, like worries about finances, a job you hate, toxic relationships where you feel you must put on a smile, and stuff your feelings. A chronic illness or generally feeling overwhelmed with your life can cause lasting damage. Women who have been through traumatic situations, may carry a higher cortisone level, if they have not had the opportunity to heal their emotional, and mental concerns.  This shows up in the body.

Cortisol is a powerful ally.  It helps maintain blood pressure, temperature, controls inflammation – is often given for pain reduction.  It is active when we exercise excessively, works with the sleep/wake cycle.  Emotional and physical upsets cause the brain to trigger to produce more cortisol.    But when cortisol is excessive.   It can cause havoc.  Cortisol draws on muscle tissue for fuel. Prolonged stress can lead to muscle wasting, and high blood sugar simply because your body is struggling to adapt.  Neuropeptide Y is another stress hormone that controls eating habits. When released it decreases metabolic rate. This causes more belly fat storage and fuels cravings for sugary foods and carbohydrates. 

Cortisol also decreases metabolic rate by interfering with thyroid hormones.

Both NPY and Cortisol boost abdominal fat storage.

Cortisol depletes serotonin, the happy hormone . Serotonin is created in the gut.  It’s decrease also creates carbohydrate cravings.

Cortisol can cause blood sugar imbalances, resulting in hypoglycemia. – shaking, irritability, fatigue and headaches between meals. (Hangry)

Cortisol causes a person to eat more than needed, by stimulating appetite-boosting NPY and blocking appetite supressing leptin.

Since cortisol saps testosterone, it can cause a languishing libido, and other serious health risks.

Excess cortisol leads to sleep disruption, which can lead to high blood pressure, mental and emotional issues, muscle fatigue, and lack of focus, and decreased mental capacity. Wounds take longer to heal, proprioception is impaired, struggling with balance and dizziness can occur.

How do you know if your cortisone is out of whack?  Dr. Natasha Turner offers a checklist in her book The Hormone Diet.   A saliva test will give you a hormone profile. It can tell if cortisol is too low in the morning, and too high at night. High cortisol at bedtime contributes to chronic insomnia.    IF cortisol is low all the time as shown in the saliva testing, it is one indicator of adrenal burnout. In fact, a saliva hormone test will give your estrogen, estradiol, progesterone, melatonin, testosterone, adrenal and cortisol profile.  I believe it is well worth it to have your hormones tested,  so you have a base line. Many Naturopathic doctors and Functional Medicine doctors recommend the test for peri-menopausal, menopausal women or  when younger women are struggling with fertility concerns.

“ To be lean, strong, vibrant, mentally focused, emotionally stable. We must control our cortisol.” Dr. Natasha Turner, author of The Hormone Diet.

So how to you do that?

Here a few immediate ways you can start.

  1. Do an assessment of your life and identify what it is that is stressing you.  This sounds easy. It may be the daily commute, it may be an external pressure, like deadlines or a difficult boss, or other person of significance in your life.  It maybe a belief system that was handed down, or put upon you, that no longer serves you, if it ever did.  Grief and other unprocessed emotions.
  2. Pause, Breathe.  Do an inhale to the count of 4, hold it for a count of 4, exhale for 4, then hold before the inhale for a count of 4.   Wim Hoff offers many youtube videos on breathwork.  Watch one, try it and see how you feel.
  3. Eat to fuel your body, not just to fill it. Healing foods are made by God. They are natural, close to source, full of enzymes, nutrients and vitamins and minerals and are not manufactured and highly processed.   Think fresh organic apples, dates, crisp colourful veggies, berries,  beans, grass fed beef or pasture-raised chicken and wild-caught fish.  
    Eat green veggies.  Add a greens drink to your day because the minerals you will get will help to calm the fire that stress creates.  Sea veggies have iodine which our thyroid needs. A quarter to a half a lemon, squeezed in hot boiled water every morning is a great cleanser for your liver. It provides Vit C and helps clears up skin blemishes. Try it. Drink instead of a caffeinated beverage.
  4. Eat nuts, and seeds.  Brazil nuts are high in selenium; almonds provide magnesium which does over 60 functions for the body.  Walnuts for the brain. Sunflower seeds, pumpkin seeds are high in zinc, and sesame seeds are a good source of calcium.  Fresh ground Flax seeds are an excellent source of fibre and can sweep out excess estrogen. Soluble fibre with lots of water helps to detoxify the gut, adding a probiotic creates and intestinal microflora that allows the beneficial bacteria to thrive. Remember our serotonin comes from the gut.
  5. Dark chocolate has antioxidants, magnesium, and enzymes. Sugar free.  Choose organic cacao when you can.
  6. Detoxify your cosmetic bag.  Lead found in lipsticks, sodium lareate  sulfate , sodium benzoate found in face cleansers, shampoos, etc are all endocrine distruptors.  Choose organic, natural cleansers, make up – lots of choice available.  Essential oils are great ways to improve your wellness, and lower stress.  Only lavender and teatree can be used neat. All others must be diluted in a carrier oil, like jojoba oil, sweet almond oil,  evening primrose oil. Consult an aromatherapists for ratios.
  7. Avoid inflammatory foods, like fast food, high-fructose corn syrup, chemical laden process foods, low-fat , and sugar-free  labelled foods all contain chemicals that mess up hormones.
  8.  Enjoy a warm to hot Epsom salt bath before bed.  The increase in body temperature encourages detoxification. Epsom salt, which is magnesium sulfate, soothes muscles, promotes relaxation.  As the body cools, a lower body temperature assists with better sleep.
  9. PureBioenergy Healing Therapy will balance hormones, improve sleep, reduce stress levels and balance our immune system.  It brings harmony to the whole person on all levels.
  10.  Get fresh air and exercise. The sun is essential to our hormones.  Vitamin D is a pre-cursor to every hormone in the body.  Exercise with a friend. It’s fun and we keep each other accountable as it is hard to sleep in or put it off until tomorrow  when we  have someone waiting for us.  Plus they encourage us to do that one more rep or walk the extra kilometre.  Yes, You Can Do it.

Here is a recipe from Dr. Natasha :   Lovely Lentil Soup

2 TBSPs extra-virgin olive oil

1 sweet potato , peeled and diced

1 large onion, chopped

4 cloves garlic, minced

1 tablespoon curry powder

1 inch piece of fresh ginger root, peeled and minced

1 tsp of cinnamon

1 cup of dry red lentils

4 cups of vegetable stock

2 tablespoons of tomato paste

Heat olive oil in a large sauce pan over medium heat. Add the sweet potato, onion, garlic, and ginger. Cook til vegetables are softened.

Stir in the curry powder, cinnamon, sea salt and cook for a few more minutes.

Add the lentils, vegetable stock, and tomato paste and mix well. Bring to a gentle boil, reduce heat and simmer covered for 30 minutes or until lentils are cooked.

Remove from heat and serve.   Share with someone you care about.

As you listen to your body, provide it with nutrients and loving care, notice what transpires in your life.   You are worth the time, and effort and the increase in energy, enthusiasm and vitality and strength will serve you long into your senior years.   

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Fortunes: A Feminine Shift in Perspective

There’s a softness that settles over us when we begin to see our lives not through the lens of what’s missing, but through the warm, golden light of what is.

This week, amidst the rush of retreat planning, our Women’s Wisdom Wednesdays, the rhythm of upcoming trainings, bookkeeping, and the focus demanded by a grant application, and a battle with ants, I found myself pausing.

I purposefully enjoyed a quiet moment, with a mug of tea in hand. I had read a passage from Ryan Holiday’s The Daily Stoic, where he shared reflections on Marcus Aurelius and the idea of fortune. And what I read settled into my heart like a seed in fertile soil.

Marcus Aurelius, a Roman Emperor and Stoic philosopher, lived a life that would challenge the strongest of us. Wars. Plagues. The death of nine of his children. A failing body. Yet never do we see him collapse under the weight of grief or bitterness.

Instead, he writes:

“I was once a fortunate man,” he writes, “and at some point, fortune abandoned me.” Even here he counters to himself with hope. “True good fortune is what you make for yourself,” he writes. “Good fortune: good character, good intentions, and good actions.” Whenever he speaks of his ‘misfortune,’ he quickly corrects himself. “No, it’s fortunate that this happened,” he writes. “It’s fortunate that this happened and I’ve remained unharmed by it.”

He reframes misfortune as opportunity.

Pain as a proving ground.

Loss as a teacher.

His words shine not because they ignore suffering, but because they hold it tenderly and choose to grow anyway.

True fortune, he said, is not what happens to us, but how we choose to meet it.

And that, my dear, changes everything.

Reimagining Fortune in Our Modern Lives

How often do we count our fortunes based on what is in our bank account or what we don’t yet have?

The dream house.

The bigger bank account.

The better body.  

The perfect partner.

The world around us, especially through the shiny lens of TikTok reels and curated Instagram feeds, whispers constantly:

You need more.

You deserve more.

You should want more.

And we listen.

We scroll through highlight reels of strangers and start to feel dull in comparison.

We buy the latest skincare line, kitchen gadget, self-improvement or exercise program hoping it will finally fill that mysterious, nagging gap inside us.

But more stuff doesn’t satisfy the ache. Doing more does not satisfy the ache.

It only adds clutter. Clutter to our homes, our computers and yes, but more deeply, to our minds and hearts.

Our judgment becomes clouded, not by a lack of wisdom, but by a culture that makes us feel like what we already hold isn’t enough, that we are not enough.

The Treasure We Already Hold

When we pause – truly pause – we can begin to see the richness already woven into our lives.

Not riches in the traditional sense, but the kind that feeds our soul.

Like:

  • The soft strength of a woman who’s survived heartbreak and still opens her heart again.
  • The quiet courage it takes to begin again after loss or betrayal.
  • The peace found in a morning coffee.
  • A walk to look at spring’s first blooms.
  • Or the giggle of a child.
  • The way our bodies carry us – even if aching, even if weary – toward healing.

These, too, are fortunes. They are treasures.

When we tend to these inner riches with love and awareness, our desire for more stuff begins to soften. We no longer chase the next shiny object, or the next generation of smart phones.

We cultivate the gems already nestled in our own lives.

Clearing the Clutter to See Clearly Again

Letting go of unnecessary things—physical and emotional—creates space for clarity. Not just in our closets, but in our choices. In our relationships. In our sense of self.

Every item we own, every piece of decor and drawer of untouched makeup, carries a story or an expectation. And when those stories are born from “not enoughness,” we end up weighed down by the very things we thought would set us free.

Marcus Aurelius reminds us that freedom is an inner state. It comes not from what we accumulate, but from how we think, how we act, and how we choose to rise.

“Good fortune: good character, good intentions, and good actions.”

So maybe we can ask ourselves:

  • What if I am already fortunate?
  • What if everything I truly need to feel full, to feel purposeful, to feel loved… is already within and around me?
  • What if fortune is not a prize to earn, but a presence to notice?

A Gentle Invitation

Today, I invite you to look around your life with softer eyes. Notice the beauty in what you already hold—the laugh lines on your face, the friend who texted “thinking of you,” the sunbeam warming your favorite chair.

Notice your own heart’s resilience. Its desire to grow. Its capacity for joy, even in sorrow.

You are not lacking, darling. You are layered in riches this world can’t always measure.

So, take a breath.

Release the chase.

And let fortune be something you make by living well, loving deeply, and choosing—again and again—to see the good.

Even in hardship.

Especially then.

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Stress, Distress, Eustress and You

As we go along this path called life, we may at some points find ourselves in situations, environments, relationships, or circumstances that we consider stressful.  These bumps along the road, which can, at times feel more like craters rather than just a pothole to avoid, impact us in many ways.    No human is immune to times of stress. Even Queen Elizabeth II had what she phrased as her “annus horribilis”.

”1992 is not a year on which I shall look back with undiluted pleasure. In the words of one of my more sympathetic correspondents, it has turned out to be an annus horribilis”

 Stress is considered part of life.  But what exactly is stress?

Hans Selye, a pioneering endocrinologist, introduced the concept of “stress” in a medical context and developed the General Adaptation Syndrome model to describe the body’s response to stressors.

The physical, chemical, and biological responses in his theory of resistance or adaptation after an injury.  “Stress,” Selye insisted, “is essentially the rate of all the wear and tear caused by life.”1  Selye identified these stages as alarm, resistance, and exhaustion. Understanding these different responses and how they relate to each other may help you cope with stress. The Alarm stage is the immediate response to an event, imagine being cut off while driving in heavy traffic, your heart rate and breathing increase, you may swear, and feel tense. Once the danger passes your heart rate , breathing return to normal.  The fight-or-flight or freeze response that occurs in the alarm stage is for your protection. A higher hormone level of cortisone, or adrenaline is for your benefit. It provides you with energy and improves your concentration so you can focus and tackle the situation. When stress is short-term or short-lived, the alarm stage isn’t harmful.

Some stressful situations, like going through a divorce, or a high stress job continue for extended periods of time. If the stress is not resolved, your body remains on high alert, it eventually adapts and learns how to live with a higher stress level. In this stage, the body goes through changes that you may not be conscious of to cope with stress.

Your body continues to secrete the stress hormones and your blood pressure remains elevated. You may think you’re managing stress well, but your body’s physical response tells a different story. If the resistance stage continues for too long without the break needed to reset, restore and recover to offset the effects of stress, this can lead to the exhaustion stage.  Resistance stage includes irritability, frustration and poor concentration. Sleep is interrupted, not as deep, and does not get to the necessary stage of cell renewal.

The exhaustion stage is the result of prolonged, chronic stress.  Exhaustion stage happens when your physical, emotional and mental resources are drained to the point where you can no longer have the strength to fight stress. A little event may be what breaks the proverbial camels back.  Hopelessness, fatigue, burnout, depression and anxiety are indicators, of this stage.  Decreased stressed tolerance and decreased immunity also factor in.   The physical effects put you at risk for stress-related illness.

  When does stress become a problem?  What can we do to counter the effects of stress?

​  The specific ranking of life events by stress level, known as the Social Readjustment Rating Scale (SRRS), was developed by psychiatrists Thomas Holmes and Richard Rahe in 1967. This scale assigns Life Change Units (LCUs) to various life events to quantify their stress impact. The top 10 stress-inducing life events according to the SRRS are:​

  1. Death of a spouse – 100 LCUs​
  2. Divorce – 73 LCUs​
  3. Marital separation – 65 LCUs​
  4. Imprisonment – 63 LCUs​
  5. Death of a close family member – 63 LCUs​
  6. Personal injury or illness – 53 LCUs​
  7. Marriage – 50 LCUs​
  8. Dismissal from work – 47 LCUs​
  9. Marital reconciliation – 45 LCUs​
  10. Retirement – 45 LCUs​

These events are considered significant stressors that may increase the risk of health issues. It’s important to note that individual responses to these events can vary, and personal coping mechanisms play a crucial role in managing stress. ​ Remember, this prognosis may not be true in all cases for all people. It depends on the individual. The belief system they have, the support they have, and the coping mechanisms they employ.  A marriage is happy occasion so why would it be on the list? A marriage brings with it change. Change is not a bad thing and is often a necessary requirement to advancement and growth. It is how we perceive change that creates either a resistance or enhancement response in us.  A wedding can be stressful due to the perceived obligations, we put upon ourselves. It can also be a joyous celebration of the love we share.  Eustress is a positive stress. It is performance enhancing, often a short-term experience where one has perceived control, and it improves well-being. Imagine studying for a big exam, or interview, excelling at it, and the confidence, joy and courage you receive because of your efforts.  The impetus, the push either from yourself or a coach, parent, mentor, advisor, trainer is needed to get you to do the work required to reach your full potential.  That is one of the reasons for deadlines.  Humans are motivated by either the pleasure of reward, or by the avoidance of the pain, disappointment, or penalty or embarrassment of not doing the ‘thing’.  The whole income tax system in this country is precipitated by this principle.  How many people find doing their tax return to be stressful?   It is the reward at the end of a challenge that we focus on.  This is true of so many projects, endeavors, goals we set. There may well be frustrations along the path to the goal.  Focus on the result. Jeff Kranos tell us that “Acute short-term stress in the human body confers a health benefit and activates pathways that promote longevity and resilience.”  Good Stress. To build muscle, the muscle fibres need to be worked beyond their current capacity. Then rest is required, nutrition to fuel the growth of the muscle before the muscle is ready to be worked again.  Good Stress.

 Distress on the other hand, decreases performance. It can come with emotional, physical, and mental symptoms including but not limited to, back pain, headaches, digestive issues, irritability, emotional outburst of anger, tears, sadness,  apathy, lack of self-care, vision issues, sleep disturbances, mood swings, and brain fog or lack of focus or feelings of overwhelm.  If we stay in Distress for too long, it can lead to more serious issues like depression, high blood pressure, adrenal, hormonal and heart concerns. Distress can lead to dis ease.  Distress doesn’t allow for the rest and recovery period.  Our minds, bodies and emotions need to have a rest period to renew, restore and grow.

The Good News is:  You have the keys to change the outcome.  Our beautiful brains have plasticity. Most our bodies cells renew daily. Your biofield contains the energy of life.  It gives you the energy to live well. Bioenergy, the energy of life, provides us with the energy, needed to live. When the bioenergy is gone, the body is life-less.  Bio means life.   So be good to your biofield. “The body is an energy system in constant energetic interaction with its environment.”  “Healing happens on a non-conscious level through a transformation of the way you think and act.” Z. Hochstatter.  Our thoughts create.  It is essential to watch your thoughts.

Here is a list of practical things you can do starting today to help balance your stress levels.

1: Identify whether you are stressed. Just because something is happening outside of you, does not mean you need to stress about it.  You can choose whether you want it to concern you or not.  2: Identify your stressor. Is it a physical environment, work environment,  personal relationship, your self-image? Are your thoughts destructive to your peace of mind?   Are you at battle with your values?

 3: Identify the reason for stressor. Can you change your location if it is too noisy, or the temperature is irritating?  Is it an internal or external stressor?  Are there steps you can take to change?  Now make a plan.  

 4: Identify and apply an appropriate stress management strategy.  You can make changes to how you are living. Sit down and write a list of what is bothering you.  Leave space to write in the answers/solutions to the concerns.  Make another list of how you would like your life to be.  Be specific.

Ask yourself what habits are detrimental to your well-being?  What are you doing to bring joy into your daily life?  Can you speak with a trusted friend, counsellor or therapist?

 DO some physical activity, preferably outside!  Walking for 25 minutes a day has been proven to lower blood pressure and improve the metabolic rate.  Look at your diet. Sugar is a killer. Sugar feeds cancer and disrupts hormones.  (  I like cake on special occasions too.  A delicious chocolate cake brings me joy. One of the things that make it special is that it is a special occasional treat, not a staple food:} I bless it and eat it.

Every month Rose and I offer a PureBioenergy Healing Therapy for Stress Reduction. We know that stress causes 80% or more of all illnesses. “The energy we work with is informed. It is creative. This means it has the power to create or recreate the well-being of the person. When this happens, it happens on all levels. It happens on the physical level, emotional level, mental level and spiritual level. “We don’t address the illness, we address the health.” Zoran Hochstatter – 3 Chairs.  Sign up for and attend the 4 day PureBioenergy Healing Therapy Online.    Experience the change that happens when you start to be healthy, happy and joyful.  Private PureBioenergy Healing Therapy is available in person or by distance for specific issues or ailments as well. You can reach me at purebioenergy4life@gmail.com to set up an appointment.   The reason we offer a monthly PureBioenergy Healing Therapy Online is that it provides a consistent method to balance stress so  you do not get to the exhaustive stage.  Here is the link to be put on the mailing list for our monthly healing events.

2024 was a highly stressful year for me, and my family.  I give credit to God, prayer and PureBioenergy Healing Therapy which I asked for, paid for, and received the many benefits of mental, physically, emotionally and spiritually. I am grateful for the friends that checked in, walked with me, and made me laugh along the way.  Stress can make us a stronger, resilient compassionate person.  We manage stress, so it does not control us.

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PureBioenergy Healing Therapy: A Gentle Path to Healing and Renewal

As women, especially those who have endured trauma, we often find ourselves feeling disconnected, isolated, exhausted, and lost—sometimes not knowing who we are anymore or where we are headed. But healing is possible. 

It doesn’t have to be complicated or overwhelming. It can be gentle, like a warm embrace that reminds you of the love and light within. That’s where PureBioenergy Healing Therapy comes in—a soothing and powerful tool we use in our practice to help women rediscover their inner strength and peace.

PureBioenergy Healing Therapy is a powerful way of energy healing without any cultural, political, religious, ritualistic or medical additives. 

What is the Biofield?

Our bodies are not just physical; we also have a subtle, energetic body that surrounds and interpenetrates us. This energetic body is often referred to as the “biofield.” It’s an invisible field of energy that exists around and within each of us, influencing our thoughts, emotions, and overall well-being. Imagine this biofield as a soft, radiant glow that extends a few feet around your body, like the warmth you feel when you stand near a cozy fire. When the biofield is balanced and in harmony, we feel vibrant, clear, and at peace. But when it’s disrupted—whether by trauma, stress, or negative emotions—we can experience illness, physical pain, emotional turmoil, or even a loss of our sense of self.

What is PureBioenergy Healing Therapy?

PureBioenergy Healing Therapy is a gentle yet highly effective technique that works with the biofield to restore balance and healing. This creative life force energy brings in wellness to release stored emotions. It restores and maintains the body at the source and at all levels. It rejuvenates the body, relieves pain and speeds injury recovery. PureBioenergy naturally boosts peak performance. 

Think of it as tuning a musical instrument. When the strings are out of tune, the music sounds off. But when tuned, everything flows harmoniously, producing beautiful sounds.

This healing modality helps women who have experienced trauma by addressing not just the physical symptoms, but the emotional and energetic imbalances that can arise from such experiences. 

In our practice, we’ve seen it work wonders for those who’ve struggled with feelings of fear, guilt, shame, and confusion. PureBioenergy works gently and effectively, offering emotional relief and fostering a deep sense of connection with one’s true self.

How Does PureBioenergy Healing Therapy Interact with the Biofield?

When we perform PureBioenergy Healing Therapy, we connect with a person’s biofield and work to identify and clear any energetic blockages or disturbances. We do this by using our hands, or sometimes even just focusing with our minds, to gently manipulate the energy field. By restoring harmony to the biofield, we are able to help the person release stuck emotions and energy that may be causing them distress. It’s like untangling a knot in a necklace—once the blockage is removed, the energy can flow freely again.

Judy, our Certified Pro PureBioenergy Healing Therapist badly injured her back. She had compressed 4 lower vertebrae weight training.  X-rays showed deteriorated discs.   Her chiropractor told her to put away the running shoes as the damage would prevent her from running, let alone competing again.  At that time, she could not even tie her own shoes. Pain was extreme to the point of nausea.   

She called Zoran Hochstatter, the official teacher of PureBioenergy. He did distance PureBioenergy Healing therapy for her.   The deteriorated discs healed; the pain totally went away. Judy was able to walk, then run and completed in the Badass Dash, a 7 km obstacle course run fundraising for Autism 3 months later.  Judy has personally healed from broken wrists, concussions, sciatica, menopausal issues, and most recently kidney stones, all using PureBioenergy Healing Therapy.   

How Does Distance Healing Work, and Why Does It Work?

You might be wondering, “How can energy healing work from a distance?” It’s a valid question, and one that many of our clients ask when they first learn about PureBioenergy Healing. The idea of distance healing can feel a bit abstract, but the truth is, energy is not confined to physical space. Just as we can feel a friend’s presence even when they are far away or think about someone and immediately feel connected to them, energy flows freely through space and time.

Distance healing works because energy is not limited to our physical senses. It’s like the wind—it may be invisible, but you can feel it on your face and see the trees moving. When we perform distance PureBioenergy Healing Therapy, we connect to the person’s biofield in the same way we would if they were in the room with us. We tune into their energy field and work to restore balance, no matter the distance. The connection happens at an energetic level, transcending physical boundaries.

An Easy Explanation of the Science Behind Distance Healing

Now, you may still be wondering about the science behind all of this, and that’s perfectly okay. Let’s break it down into simpler terms. 

The principle behind distance healing is based on quantum physics and the idea that everything in the universe is connected by energy. At the subatomic level, we are all made of tiny particles—atoms and molecules—that are constantly vibrating and emitting energy. When you think about it, we’re all just energy interacting with other energy.

Quantum physics has discovered that particles can be “entangled,” meaning that two particles can become linked in such a way that the state of one particle directly affects the other, even if they are far apart. This phenomenon, known as “quantum entanglement,” shows us that energy doesn’t adhere to the rules of space and time. In a way, it’s like sending a signal through an invisible channel that connects you to another person’s energy.

In the context of PureBioenergy Healing, we use this quantum connection to tap into a person’s biofield and facilitate healing from a distance. Whether you’re sitting across the room or across the world, the energy flows just the same. Your biofield remains accessible, and the healing process can unfold regardless of physical location.

Why It Works for Traumatized Women

For women who have experienced trauma, the ability to receive healing from a distance is incredibly powerful. It provides a safe, non-invasive way to release emotional pain and find balance. 

There’s no need to rehash painful memories or relive past trauma; instead, the energy healing works to release the blockages caused by these experiences, offering peace and comfort without the need for extensive talking or reliving the past. It’s like taking a step back from the storm and allowing the healing energy to work from the outside in, gently bringing you back to your true self.

I’ve personally witnessed the profound transformation this therapy has brought to many people. Trudy came to us after years of struggling with anxiety and emotional scars from a difficult past. After a series of PureBioenergy sessions, she was able to find peace within herself and her surroundings. She no longer felt burdened by her past, and she learned to live fully in the present moment. For Trudy, the distance healing sessions were a blessing, allowing her to heal in the comfort of her own space while being fully supported by the energy that connected us.

Are You Ready to Reclaim Your Inner Peace and Vitality?

Imagine breaking free from the weight of past trauma and stepping into a life of clarity, balance, and confidence—all from the comfort of your own home. 

If you’re feeling ready to reconnect with your true self, boost your immune system, release past trauma, and embrace a life of peace and vitality, I warmly invite you to join us for our upcoming 

PureBioenergy Healing Event,

happening

February 10, 11, 12, and 13, 2025 at 7:30 pm EDT.

This 30-minute online event will offer a soothing, healing experience that you can participate in from the comfort of your own home.

Click here to reserve your spot now and experience the gentle, powerful healing energy of PureBioenergy Therapy for yourself.

Your future self will thank you for this moment of courage and self-care. 

Remember, healing is a journey, and you don’t have to walk it alone. Judy and I are here to support you every step of the way with solution-based methods of self-discovery and PureBioenergy Healing Therapy to help you find balance, clarity, and peace, no matter where you are.

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Power! It’s All in Your Head.

The kettle whistles softly in the background as you sit across from me at the kitchen table. The scent of Constant Comment tea fills the air, and I slide a warm mug in front of you. You’ve come to me with a heaviness in your heart, searching for answers or maybe just a listening ear.

We’ve all been there—feeling stuck, unsure of the next step, and hoping for something or someone to swoop in and make it all better. But my dear, let me tell you something that took me far too long to learn.

Everything you need is already within you.

The Search for Solutions

“You know,” I begin, taking a sip of my tea, “we often look outside ourselves for solutions. We think, ‘If only someone could fix this for me’ or ‘Maybe there’s a magic pill to make it all go away.’ But the truth is, the power to change your life is sitting right between your ears. It’s all in your head.”

You tilt your head, intrigued but skeptical. “In my head? How do you mean?”

“Your thoughts,” I say, setting down my mug. “What you think about—how you talk to yourself—creates your reality.

When you focus on complaints and what’s wrong, you stay stuck. But if you shift your focus to possibilities and solutions, that’s where change begins.”

The Trap of Complaining

“Let’s talk about complaining for a minute,” I continue. “It feels good in the moment, doesn’t it? Like letting steam out of a pressure cooker. But here’s the problem: complaining keeps you chained to the negative. It’s like planting weeds in your garden and wondering why nothing beautiful grows.”

You nod slowly, stirring your tea. “I do complain a lot,” you admit. “But it’s hard not to when things feel so overwhelming.”

“I get it,” I say gently. “Life throws curveballs, and sometimes it feels like a storm that never ends. But here’s the question you need to ask yourself: Would you rather complain, or would you rather make a change? You can’t have both.”

The Power of Awareness

“So where do I start?” you ask, leaning forward.

“The first step is awareness,” I say. “You have to tune in to your thoughts. Pay attention to what’s occupying your mind. Are you dwelling on problems, or are you thinking about solutions? Awareness is like turning on the lights in a dark room. You can’t clean up the mess if you don’t see it.”

“That makes sense,” you say. “But how do I figure out why I’m thinking what I’m thinking?”

“Good question,” I say with a smile. “Let me share what helped me to tune in and start making changes.”

Three Steps to Tune In and Make a Change

Step 1: Listen Without Judgment

“First, you have to listen to your thoughts without judging them.

Imagine you’re a curious scientist studying your own mind. Carry a small notebook or use a note app on your phone, and jot down the recurring thoughts you notice throughout the day.

Don’t try to fix them yet; just observe.”

“Even the negative ones?” you ask.

“Especially the negative ones,” I say. “Those are the ones that hold clues about what’s really bothering you.”

Step 2: Ask Why

“Once you’ve identified a thought, ask yourself why it’s there.

Let’s say you keep thinking, ‘I’ll never be good enough.’

Ask yourself: Where does that belief come from? Did someone plant that seed in your mind years ago? Is it based on facts, or is it just a story you’ve been telling yourself?

“The goal is to uncover the root of the thought. When you understand where it comes from, you can decide whether it’s serving you or holding you back.”

Step 3: Choose Your Focus

“Here’s the fun part,” I say, leaning in. “You get to choose what you focus on.

Think of your mind like a radio dial. If you’re tuned into the 66.6 am station ‘Complain and Despair’, switch the dial to 101.1 ‘Hope and Solutions.’

What do you want to create in your life? What small step can you take today to move in that direction?”

“Small steps,” you repeat. “That feels doable.”

“Exactly,” I say. “Change doesn’t happen overnight, but every positive thought, every small action, plants seeds of transformation. And before you know it, your garden starts to bloom.”

The Power of Choice

“Let me tell you something,” I say, looking you in the eye. “You are more powerful than you realize.

The moment you decide to take control of your thoughts, you reclaim your power. It’s not about being perfect or never feeling negative.

It’s about making a choice—over and over again—to focus on what lifts you up rather than what drags you down.”

You sit back, a small smile playing on your lips. “So it really is all in my head, isn’t it?”

“It is,” I say, “but that’s the best news of all. Because if it’s in your head, it means you have the power to change it. And that, my dear, is where your strength lies.”

Moving Forward

As we finish our tea, you seem lighter, as if a tiny spark of hope has been ignited. Change might not be easy, but it’s possible.

And it starts with a simple decision: to tune in, to listen, and to choose.

So, what will you choose today?

Judy and I have published a new book which can help you change the way you think about yourself, called “Belief Blossoms”.

Click here to grab your free copy.

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I’m Sorry. I’m Not Sorry.

I’m sorry.

I’m sorry you had to endure heartbreak so heavy it felt like your world would never be the same.

I’m sorry you experienced loss so profound that the hole it left seemed impossible to fill.

I’m sorry you were a victim of betrayal by someone you trusted deeply.

I’m sorry your dreams were crushed when life took an unexpected turn.

I’m sorry you endured moments when your voice was silenced.

I’m sorry your confidence was shaken by cruel words or thoughtless actions.

I’m sorry your spirit was bruised by rejection.

I’m sorry you carried burdens that were never yours to hold.

I’m sorry you had to navigate the storm of loneliness when all you wanted was connection.

I’m sorry your worth was questioned, even by yourself.

I’m sorry your boundaries were ignored or disrespected.

I’m sorry your body carried pain that seemed unrelenting.

I’m sorry your heart was crushed by unspoken goodbyes.

I’m sorry you faced fear so overwhelming it stole your peace.

I’m sorry your potential was doubted by those who couldn’t see your light.

I’m sorry your joy was dimmed by circumstances beyond your control.

I’m sorry your dreams were dismissed as impossible.

I’m sorry your resilience was underestimated.

I’m sorry your trust was broken, leaving scars you still feel today.

I’m sorry your love was not valued the way it deserved to be.

I’m sorry you were told you were “not enough.”

I’m sorry your boundaries were pushed until they crumbled.

I’m sorry your strength was used against you.

I’m sorry your kindness was taken for weakness.

I’m sorry your dreams were delayed by the weight of responsibilities.

I’m sorry your vulnerability was met with judgment.

I’m sorry your hopes were dashed by circumstances out of your hands.

I’m sorry your courage went unnoticed.

I’m sorry you felt unseen in your moments of greatest need.

But I’m NOT sorry.

I’m not sorry you survived every single one of these moments.

I’m not sorry you are here, reading this, ready to embrace what’s next.

I’m not sorry you showed strength even when it felt like you had none left.

I’m not sorry you’ve discovered resilience you never knew you had.

I’m not sorry you’ve become wiser because of what you’ve endured.

I’m not sorry you get to choose what your life looks like from this day forward.

I’m not sorry you have the chance to grow and evolve into the person you’ve always been meant to be.

I’m not sorry your beauty is blooming now, like the most radiant flower.

I’m not sorry you get to create a life you’re proud of.

I’m not sorry you get to decide that life happens for you, not to you.

I’m not sorry you have the opportunity to rewrite your story.

I’m not sorry you can embrace your strengths and heal your heart.

I’m not sorry you get to surround yourself with people who truly see your value.

I’m not sorry you can choose to let go of the past and step into the light of your future.

I’m not sorry you are unstoppable.

Choices Are Yours to Make

Life is all about choices. Doing nothing is a choice. But doing nothing often keeps us trapped in the same cycles, the same pain, and the same doubts. Choosing to stay the same has its consequences, just as choosing to step forward into something new has its rewards.

When you choose to take responsibility for your life, you give yourself the greatest gift.

Releasing the responsibility for others—for their choices, their emotions, their paths—frees you to focus on your own journey. It’s not easy, but it’s empowering.

Your heart may feel broken, your body may ache, but you still have the power to choose.

Whether you place your trust in doctors and traditional medicine, explore alternative therapies, or begin engaging deeply with your soul, the choice is yours. Today is your day to choose.

If you’re ready to do things differently, Judy and I are here. We’ve been where you are. We’ve faced physical, emotional, and spiritual pain. We’ve doubted ourselves, and yes, we still face those moments. The difference now is how we move through them—how we rise.

We believe in a better way. A way where you embrace your strength and your value. A way where you learn to love yourself fiercely, so you can radiate that love to others.

Start Today

Right here, right now, is your time. You are strong. Look at everything you’ve survived. Look at where you are now.

Let’s honor that strength together. Let’s take the first step toward loving yourself more deeply than ever before.

Click the link below to claim your free gift. It’s a resource designed to help you start this journey of self-love, self-trust, and self-discovery. You deserve this. You’ve earned this. Let’s walk this path together.

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Knowledge vs Information

People are curious creatures.  We want to know stuff. The quest to know something is so great, that search engines are one of the most valued commodities in the world today.

The Google Search engine has 22,083,870,968 queries per day, that is 255,600 per second.  That is a lot of queries.  What are people searching for?  What are we seeking?

We are bombarded with information.  There are so many venues that provide constant information today, that it takes a conscious effort to reduce our consumption, or to cut ourselves off completely.  Cellphones, computers, podcasts, streaming services, social media, television, radio are competing for our attention.  At the present time, I cannot open my phone without seeing ads. This is before I put my password into my cellphone.  A bit frustrating, yes. 

Not long ago the daily news was delivered via a newspaper, or by radio or on the television twice a day.  The 6 o’clock news or the 10 or 11 o’clock news.  I remember sitting with my Dad as he drank his coffee with cream watching the Evening News.  The news then was curated from journalists.  At one time, I considered a career in journalism.  My Dad would say things like “Don’t take the news too seriously, there are more important things in life.”. 

Today much of which we are receiving is an opinion. It is a based on someone’s interpretation of fact.  What if their interpretation is flawed? TicTok, X, Instagram, and Facebook show quick bits meant to invoke emotional response. There may be entertainment value, if a cute cat picture makes one smile.   There may even be pause for thought.  Our Wounded Women Rising Facebook and Instagram accounts have daily inspirational quotes or thoughts and photos to help promote a positive life experience.

As the volume of information increases, does a person’s knowledge expand?

When one learns something new, for example a new skill, or a new way of thinking; the new information is wired in, by the repetition.  Have you ever driven a standard automobile?  You can receive the information on how to use the clutch and the stick,  the gas and brake pedals, but until you can stop on a hill, without rolling back, you don’t know how to drive a standard.  At the point when you will have mastered the sweet spot, then you know how to drive a standard.  You have confidence in your ability to drive.  That confidence empowers you to get on the highway and go to new places and have new experiences. The confidence in your ability is what drives you. 

What is knowledge?

My mentor Zoran Hochstatter says of PureBioenergy Healing Therapy the knowledge comes from the doing. In his book, 3 Chairs he states, “With the knowledge comes an enormous responsibility. The knowledge grows with practice and the joy of learning, and this leads to more personal growth.”

The information that we are subjected to on a daily basis can be a big distraction from seeking wisdom.  How often to you find yourself doom scrolling? Just mindlessly scrolling through FB or Instagram and how do you feel afterwards?  Time slipped by and what have we gained from it.

“Knowledge is not power. Knowledge is potential power. .Knowledge is trumped every day by execution.” says Tony Robbins 

 Henry W. Wright writes:  “The beginning of all wisdom begins with knowledge. You cannot have wisdom unless you first have knowledge.  You cannot have wisdom if you do not preface it with knowledge. Knowledge apart from wisdom is foolishness.”  From the book,” A More Excellent Way”.

Knowledge is a gift to us, but we must ask for it and seek it.  And upon receiving it, use it. Psalm 119.66 NLT “For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will fill you with joy.”

As we go along in this life, may we gain in knowledge. Let’s share what we learned and remember to treat each other with respect and kindness.  When the opportunity presents itself, walk in nature.  Find the quiet and ask God to give you what you seek. I believe that God will give us both peace and the answers that we are seeking. “Ask and it will be given to you, seek, and you will find; knock and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened. Matthew7.7-8. The Old and the New Testament are filled with verses on knowledge, wisdom and peace.  It’s worth a query.



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Transformation – Hello You!

Have you had the experience of losing yourself? I have had this experience so often in my life that I nearly had a breakdown. I remember sitting on the edge of my bed with my head in my hands feeling as if I didn’t exist, only my body did. I was crushed, broken and an empty shell. I had no worth, no existence and I wanted to die.

I also remember having the experience of walking past a mirror, catching a glimpse of myself and saying “Hello You! Where have you been hiding?

You may not have had an experience quite like this but we have all experienced the notion of Who Am I?

It is quite common for a woman to get caught up in being a partner/spouse, mother, friend, daughter, professional, Ms. Fixit, superwoman; all-knowing, all-seeing wonder of the world and lover. Where does she find herself in all of these roles? My gosh, just reading this makes me think women are the epitome of the multiple personality disorder.

No wonder that when divorce, abuse and life’s traumas hit home she cracks and breaks. It is difficult to keep all of these balls in the air. But it is during the times when her world falls apart that she has the opportunity to rediscover her essence, her soul, her one true love, herself.

I like to think of the opportunity to rediscover myself as a gift. Thinking this way does not start out like that. Heavens no! 

Thinking like this occurs during the process of self-discovery. When I realized I’d been given a gift everything changed. I focused more deeply. I got excited about the process, of the discovery. And then reams of information came my way I don’t think I ever could have found if I had spent thousands of hours in the library.

So, accept where you are at. Acknowledge and confirm your emotions, even the painful ones. Acknowledge your emotions as valid responses to your experiences. Accept yourself as you are, scars and all. This is the beginning of the self-discovery process.

Don’t forget about mind moves. Mind moves or the changing of your mind involves moving from a victim mentality to a mind SET of empowerment. Instead of feeling helpless and at the mercy of external circumstances, recognize your natural strength and responsibility in shaping your own destiny. This is the second step to self-discovery.

Allow me to introduce you a few other steps on the path to Hello You. These are easy things you can do to open the door to your heart, your soul, your one true love, you.

Reflect on your core values and beliefs. When was the last time you thought about your core values and beliefs

Values are often taken for granted. They’re just there. We adopt values from our families, friends, cultures, schools, and workplaces. We gather them like flowers along the path. Once we have them, we don’t really look at them and we don’t determine if they benefit our life or need to change. We may glance at them but we don’t really see them. My therapist showed me that values are of the ultimate importance, and it is important to determine the values that are non-negotiable.

Understanding your values can provide clarity and direction to your life.

Explore your strengths and weaknesses. What are you naturally good at? Organization? Networking? Entertaining? Design? Leadership? Administration? Caring for others? Motherhood?

Where do you have opportunities for growth? Emotional regulation? Self-Acceptance? Body positivity? Boundaries? Finding purpose?

Embrace your strengths and weaknesses. This leads to greater self-awareness, builds confidence and self-esteem.

Investigate your passions and interests. What activities bring you joy and fulfillment? If you haven’t gone for a bike ride lately, rent a bike for a day and explore your area. Do you enjoy the water? Rent a kayak or tube and join a group floating the nearest river. Have you wanted to try knitting or crocheting? There are groups everywhere to join in. Stop by a local yarn or craft shop and ask about them. Pick up a paint brush. Paint a room or a canvas. Are you concerned about world events and activism? Browse Facebook, the “net” or Instagram and find a place that aligns with your heart.

Engaging in activities that align with your passions leads to a deeper sense of purpose and fulfillment.

Ponder your life experiences, both positive and negative. Play the “I Remember” game. What have been the defining moments in your life? What lessons did you learn from them? You will laugh and you will cry. Both emotions are good for your soul.

Pondering on past experiences can provide valuable insights into your identity and aspirations. And please write them down. Memories not written down are eventually forgotten. I have the thought that if I ever get dementia or Alzheimer’s I would like my family to read these memories to me and the lessons I learned from them.

Cultivate mindfulness and self-reflection practices. Mindfulness techniques such as meditation, journaling, and deep breathing help you connect with your inner self and gain clarity on your thoughts and emotions.

Set goals and intentions for your personal growth. What do you want to achieve in various areas of your life, such as career, relationships, and health? Setting specific and measurable goals provides motivation and direction for growth. Start small. What do you want to accomplish this month or even this week? Pick one area of your life and set one goal or intention.

Step out of your comfort zone and embrace a new challenge. Your comfort zone is that safe, secure and warm area you like live in? Get out of it! Try something that makes your blood pump and mouth go dry.

Growth often occurs outside of the comfort zone, so I encourage you to take a risk and try a new experience that stretches your abilities and expands your horizons.

A friend of mine challenged me to do something that scared me once a week for 12 weeks. I took the challenge. I did not find it too difficult to find something that scared me. I had become so cocooned that even smiling at someone on my daily walk made me sweat.

After learning to smile, I got the nerve to say hello. I held me head up, smiled then said a word or two and kept walking. Pretty soon this practice is now part of who I am and what I do to show kindness in my area of the world. I have made friends in my neighbourhood.

Seek feedback and support from others. Whether it’s from friends, mentors, or professionals, or support groups, feedback provides valuable insights and perspectives for growth.

Find “your tribe”, a place where you share something in common and start sharing. Start asking questions of others. Give input and get input. We are meant to be in community.

Surrounding yourself with supportive individuals can provide encouragement and accountability. Something we all need to thrive.

Prioritize continual learning and development. Whether through formal or informal education, self-study, or experiential learning, seek opportunities for growth and expansion of your knowledge and skills. Become a lifelong learner.

Cultivate resilience and adaptability in the face of challenges and setbacks. Yes, that means welcoming challenges and setbacks. Realize this is a period of profound growth and it is not to be feared.

Life is full of ups and downs, but those who can bounce back and adapt to change are better positioned for growth and success.

You don’t need to try everything on this list. Pick one. Start there.

By exploring areas of self-discovery and committing to personal growth, you embark on a transformative journey of self-awareness, empowerment, confidence and fulfillment.

Imagine catching a glimpse of yourself in the mirror, liking what you see and saying, “Hello You! Where have you been hiding?”